Comparing yourself to another human isn't serving you now and not correcting this behavior will only compound the harm is cuases to you and those around you.
Today someone I know wrote, "...I have less than half..." of what the other person had.
My reply was simply, "False narrative."
The words felt like a tiny pebble in my shoe and in a sea of communication they gave me pause.
Why do we do this to ourselves? I have been just as guilty as you. I've compared my characteristics and capabilities to others. I've learned through my journey that comparing serves my about as well as sticking my hand in a blender.
Comparing limits my potential. It keeps my away from achieving my OPPORTUNITY and keeps me comfortable with REMAINING right where I am and SMALL.
Comparing is easy and often the default state for many people. Not comparing, on the other hand is hard and serves us well.
Realize that you will compare - it's part of the wiring. Armed with this knowledge how do you practice the art of not comparing?
I recommend sitting with the following questions:
- Is my comparison true? Do I know this to be true for sure? Does anyone else think it's true?
- Do I have a unique set of circumstances, beliefs, experiences, and interests compared to this person?
- Am I aware that I have my own magic? Am I developing it? Am I even aware of it?
- What do the five to seven closes people think I'm outstanding at?
I believe questions have the power to transform our perspective and the outcomes we achieve. This is especially true when we tell ourselves a false narrative, or we are looking for personal growth.
Vikrant Duggal Newsletter
Join the newsletter to receive the latest updates in your inbox.